What’s the most loving than I can do for myself, for others, for this community, for the earth? What would our world look like if we paused and asked ourselves this before speaking in a meeting, with family, at a rally, or on transportation?
It would stop the drama triangle of Persecutor, Rescuer, Victim. I practiced this recently at a Bystander Intervention training at the Open Table. We role played being the harassed (ouch!) , the harasser (ouch!) and the intervening bystander.
The temptation for the intervening bystander, in our attempt to rescue the harassed, is to move into persecuting the harasser. Then the harasser […]