I have been reflecting on Adam Hamilton’s message (link below), “Life Lessons from Winning Coaches” on the best coaching messages I have received from and given to achieve success. And I am curious to hear from you, what have been some of the best coaching messages you have given and received for success?
Adam interviewed (US) football players about their best experiences with their coaches, in the top 8 US football coaches for wins. The results were coaches who communicate they:
*1. Believe in and care about you
2. Trust in you and earn you trust
3. Hold you accountable
An example of number one, believing in and caring about you, was Marty Shottenheimer pulling aside a player aside during a game, not to yell or scream at them for a mistake they had made, but to remind them of the number of times they had been successful and to remind them they could do it again.
I would say “the greatest of these is love”, the love, the caring. Maybe you have heard that before. I am really thankful this is something I am known for too as a leadership and mentor coach. Tiffany Carlsen, one of our Culturally Confident Credentialing Mentor Coaching Program alumni says, “Marilyn has a great belief in each member’s capability and this is encouraging,” and makes a big difference.
Recently promoted leaders I coach credit their making it through the imposter syndrome and becoming the confident leader they are meant to be to our coaching. Of course part of our coaching is further developing their strengths for the greatest result in the organization.
I want to hear your examples!
A few of the best coaching messages I have received include one from my mom, a very encouraging person. She said, “Don’t give up until you cross the finish line! You can do it!” This photo reminds me of her message, which got me through final exams in high school and university and at the end of the process of writing my book and redoing my website. Those times where I thought, “Oh I am tired of this, I don’t know if I can keep going!” her words helped me get through it. Mom believed in and loved us.
I also remember a golf instructor I was practicing my swing with in a beginner lesson with him observing. I blew it, and asked, “What did I do wrong?” His response was, “Marilyn, I don’t want you to ever ask yourself that question. Simply get back into form, to the proper stance and hit the ball again.”
Those are some winning coaching messages I have given and received for success, and I look forward to hearing some of yours!
To our success-we are in this together!
Marilyn O’Hearne, MSW, MCC, LLC
CQ, Master Certified Coach, International Coach Federation
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PSSS Here is the link to Adam Hamilton’s 36 minute “Life Lessons from Winning Coaches”message (sermon) which includes a tribute to Fritz Pollard, the first African American football coach in the US in the 1920s! My 4 minute message is below.